Possibilities of Self-Love

Kaleidoscope Of Love ~ Leonid Afremov

At the height of laughter, the Universe is flung into a kaleidoscope of new possibilities. ~ Jean Houston

In my years of spiritual consultations and intuitive readings there are three key areas of life that people are concerned with Love, Money / Career, or Health and usually in that order.  Although love and money vied for the top spot, more often people asked for insight about Love.

In the New Year’s post I asked, what might happen if you embraced possibility?

Embracing possibility means allowing oneself to dream the if-there-are-no-obstacles-and-all-resources-are-available-to-me BIG dream.

There is a whole world of possibilities in Love.  It’s among the highest vibrations of energy and when you’re in it you’re flowing hope, appreciation, and joy.  Love isn’t something you do, it’s something you feel.  Love isn’t a commodity you trade in it’s a gift you give yourself.

What are the possibilities in loving yourself more?  Might you care about yourself; take responsibility for yourself; respect yourself; know yourself?  Self-love is the most important love.  When practiced, it contains a strong sense of respect and confidence, acceptance and detachment, an awareness of who you really are … a spiritual being, having a human experience.

There is an expansion that happens with self-love.  From a place of deep love for yourself, you can observe your ego and distinguish between it and Self.  An awareness grows in you that you are connected to all things, all beings, to Source itself, however you define it.  Many cosmologies hold the inherent belief that everything is connected.  The Maya call it En Lak’ech, in East India its Namaste, and Mitakuye Oyasin by the Lakota Sioux.

Through the awareness of this connected-consciousness comes an understanding that the larger part of you is still connected to Source.  From there, behaviors, actions, and words that once annoyed, frustrated, or upset you seem diminished because of your awareness.  It grows with practice, and you will come to realize that the drama isn’t personal in fact, it isn’t really about you and your child / friend / lover / partner at all.  It’s always between YOU and YOU.  Or child and child, partner and partner, etc.  It’s how you manage your gap.

What might change in the landscape of your inner and outer worlds?

Developing a relationship with your Self is of the highest order.  Loving your Self unravels the tangles around what you want and what others (mother, partner, etc) want or think you “should” be/do/have.  It stretches your imagination and enlivens every day.

Remember how it felt to fall in love with your partner or to explore the bonds of sisterhood with your best friend?  Imagine how it feels to embody that level of excitement and love from the perspective of giver and receiver interchangeably.

As you put learn to distinguish between your ego and your Self you begin to experience a more profound spiritual connection.  The Self I’m referring to isn’t the narcissistic little self, that’s really your ego, but rather your divine Higher Self – that eternally connected to Source piece of you.  Nurturing this relationship strengthens and deepens the most precious of all relationships, the one you have with Source.  From this feeling place grows infinite love and it spreads to your outer world relationships.  The richer relationship with your lover, a stronger bond with your child, and a more peaceful home life comes naturally through the Self-love and peace you’re nurturing within.

We’re conditioned to serving others and feeling guilty at being selfish.  That little self/ego is lost without that role.  Put her out of work!  Favor Self-ish instead – being like/of your Self.

What does being Self-ish look like? 

For me it means I slow down; I’m gentle and easy with myself.  I meditate.  I listen to my body and move or relax as it guides me.  I make time for pampering and touch whether it’s with my partner or through a professional for pedicure or massage.  I signed up for a heart-centered marketing course to learn a new way of expanding my business.  I learned to knit and I’m exploring ways to create art and magic in my own special way.

Does that sound juicy and delicious?  What does Self-ish look like to you?

Explore ways to embrace life and it’s kaleidoscope of possibilities.  Tune yourself to the vibration of love.  Look for reasons to feel good, to love and appreciate yourself.  Listen to your body it will tell you what it needs; feel your feelings, they are your internal guidance system.  Let them guide you through your day.  See what possibilities might unfold in the spinning sparkly phantasmagoria of life.